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Did I ever post this? I loved this short film.

Oh. My.

Actually, I learned a few things watching this. Some familiar patterns that triggered new thinking. So, it might be an example of a 4 1/2 minute exercise in “productive procrastination.” Might be.

My friends on Twitter came up with the following links for finding wifi in Boston:

http://www.newburyopen.net/locations.html
http://tinyurl.com/5wb77z
http://boston.wifimug.org/index.cgi
http://boston.about.com/od/bostonliving/a/WiFi.htm
http://www.mainstreetswifi.com/where.html

Some specific venues suggested:
Boloco
http://www.darwinsltd.com/148breakfast.html
Flour

So this post is mainly to say thanks. You guys are so amazingly kind to me, and you’re all helping me to learn important lessons like 1) being vulnerable sometimes and 2) allowing others to be kind to/help you.

For those of you who are new here, yeah, my Twitter does get pretty personal. I have trouble articulating why, exactly. It just does. I know some things I share because I hope others will feel less isolated about their experiences. Anyway.

Just a coupla quick points because a lot of you have asked…

Fatigue: this just kind of hit out of the blue this week. But, it makes perfect sense that my body would get in my face, all “hey! enough stress. i’m done.” There’ve been a lot of signs that my system just wasn’t keeping up: insomnia, shivering, blah blah blah. It’s not even alarming, given the “luck acrobatics” of my last few years. And by the way, some of the contributing stress has been “off-the-wall-good” stress. Stuff I am very psyched and grateful for. Both kinds wear ya down tho. So, I cut aggressively to no alcohol or caffeine, daily walks, yoga, mediation, diet, etc. changes to help it even itself back out. So far so good. Heed your own body’s warning signs, OK?

Separation: Mr. P and I separated, quite amicably, around New Years. We started talking about it publicly in late February. Divorce is never an easy decision and we did not make ours lightly, but I can tell you it’s led to wonderful things for all 4 of us, and a much more stable and loving (ironic, innit?) family life. He’s only moving out now, and will live very close by and remain totally involved in our day-to-day lives. The girls are more relaxed and happy than they’ve been for a long time. We really appreciate the many kindnesses folks have extended.

So, nothing to see here. No crisis. Much joy and hope. Off to the Cape for the weekend to relax with my parents. Will resume travel Friday for some client stuff and PodCamp NYC. Very sorry to be missing both Expo 2.0 and NewComm Forum, but maybe next year!

With deep gratitude,
Pistachio

PS - This blog is a hodgepodge scrapbook/social media lab/ place to put cooking seesmics, etc. I blog (somewhat more) regularly at www.PistachioConsulting.com.

I Tweeted: Could we crowdsource a nerd rap for Colorwars? Send your best line/couplet for this beat. I’ll record it.

You came through bigtime…(Stachio Stachio you’re doin’ a Mashio!)

Weeell theey call me ’stachio, i’m a twittering NUT.
Gonna PWN you nerd rappers, kick some colorwars butt.
My team is verygreen and I know it’s a sin,
but I don’t really care if we lose or we win (@the diva)
Thumb’s a flyin’, crackberry batt’ry dyin’,
got my 1-4-0 to prove them othas should be cryin’. (@tbrunelle)
Other Twitter DJ’s think you got the hit
But this rap be yo nightmare when i’m thru with it
Soc-ial me-di-a grow grow grow
Crowdsourcin’ is the future baby baby YO! YO! (@markhansler)
Big names… no! big avatars
usin screennames while addressing and coalescing in bars
it’s all a social meeting, just a different context
when it’s 30 seconds old, we be asking “what’s next?” (@scottypboston)
I live in the intarwebs, I think you all know.
Got so many e-friends here it makes me go “WHOA!” (@the diva)
my tweets shake yo webpage like a javascript.
I tweet so strong ur dome is blown before ur phone is un-flipped. (@steketee)
I twitter all day, hardly ever AFK,
so if ya makin up some bacon, better send some my way! (@the diva)

…YO. But don’t send me no B-A-C-N. That sh*t’s ruuuude. Peace. I’m out.

title credit @msholin)

Thank you to my friends on Twitter for this help: (this was collected ages ago, but I’d been having trouble updating this blog)

I guess by now it’s apparent *why* I’ve been a little jumpy on the inside. When I wrote this the separation was not public. These do help. One day at SXSW I went and hid behind the cardboard thingy outside the bloghaus, cranked out some sun salutes and then worked on my headstand. I also get strange random urges to do crow (bakasana) which I suddenly started to be able to do despite months of neglecting my practice.

Elsie Escobar @YoGeek and of course you can just listen to the last 15 min of this episode and chill… http://is.gd/Bb

Elsie Escobar @YoGeek suptabaddhkonasa’s good 4 chillin’ but the task is done faster by going upside down, if ur up 4 it do this! http://is.gd/1dR

Vice-Queen Maria @vicequeenmaria I like doing corpse pose with an eye pillow on my forehead and a blanket rolled up under my chest

Elsie Escobar @YoGeek going upside down will do it most of the time http://tinyurl.com/yppu83

Catherine Laine @cat_laine child’s pose, downward facing dog, leg’s up on the wall pose is especially nice

dllavoy @dllavoy supta bada kinashia (no idea how to spell). the three diamonds. (This one? http://yogajournal.com/poses/663 -laura)

Jen Zingsheim @jenzings Inversions are very good for calm…try a shoulder stand or plow…they work for me. Bridge pose too.

Lauren Vargas @vargasl I prefer childhood or cobblers poses to ground myself.

Eve @GeekGirlTV Child’s Pose. Downward dog? but mostly just child’s pose.

frozen2late @frozen2late Child’s pose is the most relaxing. http://tinyurl.com/24myrp

Connie Crosby @conniecrosby Shava-asana is always the best to calm me down

my niece has grown into being a beautiful, smart, responsible, caring, hardworking woman. seeing her today… hearing her excitement about coming back for a longer visit (as soon as this summer?)… meeting her boyfriend and seeing he is a decent soul, and great with his kids… tearing up with her over the necklace… watching our babies play together… sitting with our families and laughing a while… it could not have gone better.

my half brother who took his life in ‘99 left behind some awful and jagged realities. his sons are dear to me, but continue to struggle mightily. she is the one wondrous thing he (quite accidentally) gave the world.

i still love danny (or at least my baby sister childish image of who he could have been) in a strange way. but in my niece and her son, that’s where something so much more worth loving lives on. danny’s been gone a long time, and the person i mourned when he perished probably never even was.

but i’ll never stop believing in her. thanks ace. i love you.

when i was 27 and living in PA i “adopted” my 14 year old niece, and raised her thru some pretty gnarly teenage years. the most shocking thing about the experience was learning how massive and stunningly permanent a parent’s love for a child is. i was unprepared for that. there’s no measure. even when you jump into the middle of it like that.

we each saved the other’s life. for 3 years it was just her & me. she helped me plug back in socially when i was lot of a loner. she gave me a strong sense of purpose to work and start making something of myself. i got out of a bad job situation and into a dream one, working from home so i could take better care of her. i bought us a house and some land and we had a little farmette.

she did amazingly well considering what life had thrown her way. she graduated high school and finished a year of college. but more than that she continued on her way to becoming this amazing person, with an ability to love and care and feel very deeply.

but, i haven’t seen her since august 2003. she ran away to ohio to be with a guy she met online instead of going back to school or coming to my wedding that september. at the reception, i kept thinking she would walk in, but her friend phoned me the next day once she’d figured it out. my niece has lived there ever since.

as hard as that was, i don’t fault her that choice. she wanted to start all over with a clean slate. yeah, it was REALLY dangerous. and the guy did turn out to be a loser. but she got into a better situation and she built a life for herself out there.
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I wanted to quickly share these great tips that everyone provided when I could not access the web from my client’s site. Thank you very much for the assistance. I will clean up the post and insert hyperlinks later on.

• Starman @istarman Under the Network System Preference, make sure that Built-In Ethernet is green, and that you have an IP that doesn’t start w/169
• hilary tyler @podcrawl Command-K
• scottypboston @scottypboston - I had that problem on my macbook pro. I set up a location that disabled wifi and used only eth to resolve it.
• Michael De Leon @mdeleon - Try renewing the DHCP License. Could be that it was tied to the other computer’s MAC address
• Steven Buehler @revtriste - Check that the wired interface is included in your location profile?
• Philip Campbell @philcampbell - check the light on the other end, try another cable, try a reboot with cable in - de-activate wifi, refresh dhcp in network set..
• Adele McAlear @adelemcalear - Make sure your Apple Talk is on; Make sure port is on (may be off if you use wireless)
• Wayne MacPhail @wmacphail - Try turning off Airport

If your current life focus were a bookshop, what section/s would you be browsing in? Why?

Don Lafferty @donlafferty ~ raising teens and mixology
mambo101 @mambo101 The music history section.
Aruni (entrepreMuse) @aruni I used to read a lot of sci-fi, popular novels. Now I can’t remember when I last had time to read a good book.
Kathryn V Jones @kathrynjones the kick me in the ass section
Bryce Moore @abiteofsanity “Mental Disorders And Behaviors”
Aruni (entrepreMuse) @aruni went to Barnes&Nobles this morning and spent most of the time in the kid’s book section.
David Buttrick @geekdave Anthropology & Philosophy - they are what I studied in College, and I’m still fascinated with them
Christopher Penn @cspenn business, economics, American history 1925 - 1933